Pre-marital Counseling can make a huge difference in the outcome of your marriage. Read this article to see if pre-marriage counseling is for you.
By Jenny Tiegs, GalTime.com
By Jenny Tiegs, GalTime.com
When does your marriage need professional help?
There's no question -- marriage can be challenging. Maybe marriage counseling should be something you register for when you tie the knot. Much like a new set of dishes that gets scratched from constant use, relationships can also show wear and tear over the years. So, how do you know if your marriage has hit a rough patch or it's something more serious... requiring professional help?
7 Signs You Might Need Marriage Counseling
Sign 1: Poor Communication. Martin Novell, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles, urges couples to seek professional help when they aren't able to talk about their problems. According to Novell, "When It's just too frightening to even bring issues up -- from sex to money, or even annoying little habits that are being blown out of proportion, a therapist's job is to help the couple become clear about their issues and to help them understand what they are truly talking about."
Sign 2: Your Sex Life has Significantly Changed. Most feel that when there is a loss of intimacy, there are problems. While this is true, it is also important to be mindful of a sudden increase. Valerie Jencks, Founder and Executive Director of Prairie Family Therapyin Chicago, warns that either an absence or a sudden increase of sex in your relationship can signal danger. "If you have not been having regular or passionate sex and all of a sudden your partner behaves like a courting lover or wants to experiment with new activities that s/he has never expressed an interest in before, it could indicate that he is experiencing feeling of arousal that are not originating from his relationship with you!"
Sign 3: Holding on to the Past. Silvia M. Dutchevici, the founder and President of the Critical Therapy Center in New York City, suggests that it might be a good idea to talk to a professional when there has been a traumatic event in your lives, like the loss of a child or an affair-- and one partner cannot let the past go. "Whatever the situation, every person processes trauma differently."
Sign 4: A Reoccurring Issue. "One type of red flag that usually can be greatly helped by therapy is an issue that has been difficult in the relationship from the beginning, but regardless of endless discussions, never seems to pass," explains Dr. Julie Gurner. "When you see that the same issues are coming up again and again in disagreements, it is a good sign they are not effectively being resolved and the couple is at a 'sticking point.'" Dr. Gurner encourages couples to seek help to save "many years of trouble down the road."
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