When to Seek Marriage Counseling

There’s no wrong time to seek marriage counseling. Rather, it’s best to make regular therapy sessions a habit in your marriage. This could mean meeting together with a therapist every couple months or as frequently as once a week.

Seek Marriage Counseling From the Start

No matter where you are in your relationship, seeking marriage counseling or couples counseling from the start will form a foundation between you and your significant other from which you can then grow. Most conflict in relationships stems from our own individual attachment patterns. Our attachment styles are formed in the first twelve months of life and reinforced throughout childhood and adolescence. These adaptions are wired into the nervous system and body and are outside of conscious awareness for the most part. During conflict, a couple attempts to resolve the topic of contest but their attachment styles conflict and sabotage their efforts.

How Marriage Counseling Works

Seeking marriage counseling before you tie the knot will help you and your significant other identify one another’s attachment styles so that when conflict does arise you are better equipped to alleviate the other’s needs. In marriage counseling, we work to identify the attachment styles and developmental wounds that trigger trauma in both partners. Then, the reparative behavior or unmet need from the attachment wound is identified and these same interactions now become healing moments, rather than the re-traumatizing ones.
Couple’s and marriage counseling will involve sessions which will help both you and your partner identify specific relationship challenges, as well as relationship strengths which are then incorporated into a customized treatment plan. This treatment plan will help you work on issues in a neutral environment – together.
Seek marriage counseling now and experience an increased capacity for emotional expression and intimacy in your relationship. Call (561)797-0631 or visit our website for more information.

Affairs + Technology

Are affairs becoming a more acceptable practice in society? The rate of affairs and cheating in marriages is growing at an alarming rate. According to a recent study conducted by The Journal of Marital and Family Therapy 41% of marriages reported cheating on their spouses both emotionally and physically. The average length of the affairs was recorded at two years.

With the progression of technology introducing new tools to make cheating and secrecy easier than ever many spouses find themselves caught in the web of painful affairs. Sites like Ashley Madison & How to Have an Affair offer troubled couples an escape while promising complete anonymity. 

As life unravels so do the traces of infidelity and betrayal. Often when the betrayer approaches the betrayed to disclose the affair a wave of emotions surfaces. The combination of shock, anger and disappointment felt by the betrayed partner acts is an active ingredient when mixed with the uncertainty, shame and regret felt by the betrayed. These stories sometimes play themselves out in unhealthy interactions sometimes leading to physical altercations.

Unfortunately, many marriages are unable to recover from the damage the affair has created. We believe that seeking professional counseling after your affair could possibly save your marriage. The affair recovery process is complex and challenging. It requires a strong commitment to addressing deeply rooted issues and a resolve to work at repairing the damage that has been done. 

Have you experienced an affair in your marriage? If you're seeking professional guidance for the recovery of your marriage contact us today.